JIMMY, 29 & JAMIE, 29 — DATING
How did you two meet?
At a local bar. And through a mutual friend in San Francisco.
How long have you two been together?
5 years in March.
What drew you to each other?
I think he’s very handsome. I think he’s very smart. It felt very casual, like we were friends more than anything else. And I like that.
Initially, I liked the chase of you. I liked that you didn’t like me. That’s the way to my heart (laughs). But then when I got to know him, I learned what a goof he can be and what a sweet man he is.
So what is a challenge you’ve had in the relationship?
Communication. (laughs) Communication is something we’ve both had to work on and continue to work on together.
If you could one piece of advice about relationships, what it would be?
If you don’t give anything, you won’t get anything back. You have to invest in it if you want to experience all the positive fun things that come with being in a relationship.
I would say learn to be alone together. Although we don’t do that very well. In fact, if we are together, we are actively together and engaged. Very rarely are we alone together in the same room doing our own thing. If we’re together, it’s not like it’s some chore to engage each other. I wouldn’t have it any other way. But I do admire couples that have the ability to just sit in the same room separately, where one is reading a book and the other is listening to a podcast.