#008 — “Haunted by History: Love After Trauma” — with Dr. Jacob Ham

“Love After Trauma”

We went into the mind and psychotherapy session of Dr. Jacob Ham, a clinical psychologist who specializes in the treatment of trauma. He is the director of the Center for Child Trauma and Resilience and assistant clinical professor at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai Hospital. In our interview, he described how pain from the past affects our current relationships and ways that he helps hurt people heal interpersonal wounds and build trust and love again. To help us understand, he shared with us a recording from a real couples session that is a moving demonstration of his work and the power of couples therapy to build back healthy connection.

Follow the couple's therapeutic journey and learn more about loving through hurt on Dr. Ham's YouTube channel:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdpMZfwdxyqpvoC74eaF-2A

#008 — “Haunted by History: Love After Trauma” — with Dr. Jacob Ham

#007 — “Swiping for Love: True Confessions of an Online Dater” — with Nell Taylor

Nell is a 34-year-old designer who has extensive experience exploring online dating. Through her dating adventures, experience of numerous dating apps, and understanding texting rapport, she has guided many friends through navigating the often daunting cyber world of love. In this interview, Nell candidly opens up about the realities of online dating. Nell shares what she has learned about tolerating anxieties that get stirred up and offers practical advice for women seeking love online.

#007 — “Swiping for Love: True Confessions of an Online Dater” — with Nell Taylor

#006 — "Love Me, Love You" — with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a clinical psychologist at The Family Institute and professor at Northwestern university where she teaches the famous undergraduate  course “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” She is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. As the title suggests, Dr. Solomon explained to us in this illuminating interview how to expand your relational self-awareness so you can make healthy and conscious choices around love. She delves into the key aspects of romantic relationships including attraction, long term relational success, conflict, sex, and how to balance the choices between yourself and your partner. While this interview is particularly helpful for young adults, anyone can learn from her pearls of wisdom!

#006 — "Love Me, Love You" — with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
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#005 — "Brave One: Intimacy after Disability" — with Carina Ho

Carina Ho is a survivor of a tragic car accident that killed her mother, caused her stepfather to suffer from a traumatic brain injury, and left her paralyzed from the chest down. Three years later, and now using a wheelchair, our guest is a full time modern dancer at AXIS Dance Company, has released her EP album Onikho, and is the most recent recipient of the Fulbright Scholarship. Several months before the accident, our guest began dating a young man whom she had met at work. Through the transition from pre accident to post accident, able bodied to disabled,  our guest and her boyfriend have remained together. In our interview, Carina speaks candidly about her experience of love and sex after becoming paralyzed and how she is rediscovering her mojo. https://onikhomusic.com/

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#005 — "Brave One: Intimacy after Disability" — with Carina Ho
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#004 — "The Biology of Love and Attraction" — with Helen Fisher Ph.D.

Helen Fisher, PhD, is a biological anthropologist and the chief scientific advisor to Match.com. In this illuminating interview, Dr. Fisher explains to us what happens to our brain on love or after rejection, the biological underpinnings of how we pick our partners, and takes an anthropological perspective on the ways in which online dating has formed our way of experiencing relationships. Dr. Fisher got us thinking, "Maybe love isn't such a mystery after all." 

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#004 — "The Biology of Love and Attraction" — with Helen Fisher Ph.D.
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#003 — "You Are Normal: Discovering Your Authentic Sexual Self" — with Emily Nagoski Ph.D.

Emily Nagoski, PhD, is the author of New York Times best-seller “Come As You Are: The Suprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life.” Emily’s message is powerful to women exploring and understanding their sexuality: you are NORMAL, just as you are! As a professor at Smith College and sex educator around the country with a popular TedTalk, her mission is to help women feel confident and joy inside their bodies and with their sexuality. In our interview, Emily demystifies our sexual biology, explains the accelerators and brakes of sexual desire, what fetishes are all about, and how to come into your “authentic sexual wellbeing.

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#003 — "You Are Normal: Discovering Your Authentic Sexual Self" — with Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
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#002 — "How to Have An Open Relationship" — with Aaron Breslow

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#002 — "How to Have An Open Relationship" — with Aaron Breslow
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#001 — "Intercourse Discourse" — with Ian Kerner, Ph.D.

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#001 — "Intercourse Discourse" — with Ian Kerner, Ph.D.