This article starts with a sad but not shocking statistic that only 3 in 10 married couples stay happily married. Most stay unhappily married or divorce. Are we then doomed or is there a recipe for long-term marital happiness? According to research the key to a good marriage is practicing kindness (even in anger), while contempt will spell the end for many couples. How do you do it? Be kind and responsive, don’t automatically assume your partner has negative intentions, and genuinely share in the joy of your partner’s successes. We might add something about sexual intimacy to this list but overall it seems like a good set of relational ingredients to follow.
Emily Esfahani Smith