While this book is directed for heteronormative couples and the impact that gender norms have on relationships, Terry Real describes essential skills and clinical wisdom that can apply to every relationship. It is one of our top recommended books because it so clearly states what is okay and not okay in a healthy relationship. Most of us are seeking partners that can both be a lifelong lover as well as a companion and we need new rules for this new kind of 21st century relationship. The book is entertaining and Terry Real keeps it real (pun intended). He cuts to the chase and is direct and often confrontational with you, the reader, and his couples that he illustrates in the book: all the while still using humor to soften the blow. The book also provides exercises for you and partner to practice new ways of relating and communicating.