Mating in Captivity

In this book, Esther Perel challenges the reader to think differently about romantic relationships and how to maintain intimacy. Do we need distance to achieve closeness? Does acknowledging otherness inspire closeness? Do we need both freedom and commitment? The ideas outlined in this book have resonated deeply with millions of people and propelled Esther Perel to celebrity status. It counters the traditional view that a successful relationship is one in which there is maximum emotional intimacy and closeness. Couples need some distance from one another to maintain mystery and sexual attraction. We think Esther’s ideas are on point, especially the idea that you cannot expect your partner to fulfill all your needs.

Esther Perel