intimacy

Men are surprisingly touchy-feely when it comes to sex.

Male sexuality tends to be equated with unlimited drive and a constant hunger for more. Recent research suggests this myth needs to be laid to rest. Dr. Lehmiller breaks down the results of a recent study published in the Journal of Sex Research in which researchers surveyed men about the factors influencing their sexual desire. The results showed that vulnerable feelings play a big role. Men want to feel desired, they seek spontaneity and novelty, they desire emotional intimacy, and fear rejection. Sex may not operate so differently between men and women after all.

Justin Lehmiller

Men are surprisingly touchy-feely when it comes to sex.

Sex Therapy

This podcast is geared toward mental health professionals but it’s also an interesting listen for anyone with sexual concerns or a desire to know more about sex therapy. Dr. Iasenza sounds like the cool nurturing aunt everyone wishes they had: the aunt willing to talk to you about anything without telling your parents. In this podcast she discusses sexual issues in general and outlines the treatment process. If you have any interest in sex therapy, this provides a helpful overview of what to expect.

Suzanne Iasenza

Sex Therapy

Mating in Captivity

In this book, Esther Perel challenges the reader to think differently about romantic relationships and how to maintain intimacy. Do we need distance to achieve closeness? Does acknowledging otherness inspire closeness? Do we need both freedom and commitment? The ideas outlined in this book have resonated deeply with millions of people and propelled Esther Perel to celebrity status. It counters the traditional view that a successful relationship is one in which there is maximum emotional intimacy and closeness. Couples need some distance from one another to maintain mystery and sexual attraction. We think Esther’s ideas are on point, especially the idea that you cannot expect your partner to fulfill all your needs.

Esther Perel

Mating in Captivity