This book came recommended by a couple of single non-psychologist friends who described it as “eye opening” and “a must read.” Attachment, our style of intimacy in romantic relationships, influences how we respond to our crushes, dates, and partners. Broadly attachment can be divided into categories of secure (comfortable with intimacy), anxious (preoccupied with relationships and worried about rejection), and avoidant (discomfort with intimacy and independent). ‘Attached’ helps you examine your own attachment style, recognize the attachment style of others, and improve communication in romantic relationships. This is an excellent primer to understanding attachment and offers useful strategies for self regulation when the attachment system is activated. However, we caution against thinking too simplistically about attachment. Our attachment style is fluid and can shift with time or changing contexts.
Amir Levine & Rachel S.F. Heller