Since the dawn of time dating has been a challenge and often times one wonders how so many people ended up with partners in the pre internet age. Online dating gives us the illusion of endless options and the idea that we are more likely to find “the one.” In the end we swipe, go on dates, do more swiping, and go on more dates in a seemingly endless search for something better. The process feels efficient (it’s a numbers game right?) but the opposite is probably truer. Relationships take time and investment, which directly counters the online dating model, “little effort on lots of people rather than lots of effort on few.” If you’re dating, our advice is to read this article, take a deep breathe, slow down, and spend time with people rather than running yourself ragged in the dating race.