The Realities of Love at First Sight
Can you fall in love at first sight? Yes, but only to 11% of us, according to a study from the University of Israel that asked 493 people whether they had fallen in love that way. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist, explains that we are programmed to determine whether we like someone within the first few seconds of meeting; a skill that helped our ancestors distinguish between friend or enemy. When it comes to choosing our mates, it takes a few minutes to know whether we are attracted to someone. First comes appearance, than the tone of voice, and finally, the content of their conversation (we are drawn to people with similar levels of intelligence, values, and beliefs). For the rest of us, the more time you spend with someone you like, the more attractive they can be. In other words, some potential partners can start as burning flames and other are slow burns. Both can lead to love.
Helen Fisher, PhD